Have you ever lost any respect for someone instantly?
你是否曾经瞬间失去过对某人的尊重？
Answered by: Aharon Dobin,Repairs Surveyor at Swan Housing Association
回答者：Aharon Dobin，天鹅房屋协会的维修测量师
I was on a date with a lady some years back. She had a decent job, came from a good family, and was definitely not broke.
几年前我和一位女士约会。她有一份体面的工作，来自一个良好的家庭，而且绝对没有破产。
She and I went to a restaurant for dinner. I think it was around 11 p.m. when the bill came and it had a small service charge on top of it. She did not offer to pay, so I paid instead and left the tip. It was fine by me, I wasn't expecting her to pay anyway.
我和她去了一家餐馆吃晚饭。我想是晚上11点左右。账单来的时候，上面有一小笔服务费。她不愿付钱，所以我付了钱，并留下了小费。我没问题，反正我也没想到她会付钱。
She asked me why I left a tip when the bill already had a 5% service charge. I tried to explain to her that I was experienced in working late hours and it was tough. I think they deserved a tip for working late because I know how it feels.
她问我，账单上已经有5%的手续费了，为什么我还要留小费呢？我试着向她解释说，我有加班的经验，而且很辛苦。我认为他们工作到很晚应该得到小费，因为我知道那是什么感觉。
Before I could finish what I was saying, she went on an embarrassing, demeaning rant.
我还没来得及说完，她就发出了令人尴尬、贬低我的咆哮。
'What they're doing is quite easy!'
“他们做的事很简单！”
She exclaimed. 'They just wait on customers, clean tables, and serve food. They don't deserve a tip!'
她喊道。“他们只是招待顾客，打扫桌子，上菜。他们不值得给小费！”
To make the situation worse, her voice was loud enough that the waiter at the next table overheard her. I was so embarrassed that I stormed out. She followed me and wondered why my mood turned sour. She thought it was because she didn't pay the bill, which infuriated me more.
更糟糕的是，她的声音很大，隔壁桌子的服务员都听到了。我太尴尬了，我怒气冲冲地走了出去。她跟着我，不知道为什么我的情绪变得不好。她认为是因为她没有付账，这让我更加气愤。
Since that night, I never spoke to that person ever again. I don't have any respect left for her and I might never treat her with any amount of respect ever again.
从那晚开始，我再也没和那个人说过话。我对她一点尊重都没有了，我可能再也不会尊重她了。
You can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat other people who cannot seem to meet their standards."
你可以通过一个人对待其他似乎达不到他们标准的人的方式来了解他。“
