What would make a narcissist come back after they broke up with you?
是什么让一个自恋者在和你分手后又回来了？
Answered by: Bukola
回答者：布科拉
They never left. They were on HIBERNATION.
他们从未离开过。他们正处于冬眠状态。
Narcissists never fully break up with you. They can use the word break up, to hurt their significant other, but the truth is, they are never done.
自恋者永远不会和你彻底分手。他们可以用分手这个词来伤害他们的另一半，但事实是，分手永远不会结束。
What comes next is the no contact moment. This can go on for weeks or months. Naturally, you would think it’s over, all of a sudden, they will show up.You are so excited to have them back, they will tell you their reason for silence, you’ll either feel sorry for them or you feel guilty. The truth is, it’s never you. It’s them controlling your mind and driving you bonkers.
接下来就是没有接触的时刻。这种情况可能会持续数周或数月。很自然，你会认为一切都结束了，突然之间，他们就会出现。你很高兴他们回来了，他们会告诉你保持沉默的原因，你要么会为他们感到难过，要么会感到内疚。事实是，从来都不是你。是他们控制着你的思想，让你发疯。
The vicious cycle continues, until your endurance wanes.
恶性循环还在继续，直到你的耐力下降。
Chances are you will call off the relationship before the narcissist does. They are like vampires, but this time sucking on your sanity. You have to be wise to the ploy.
你很有可能会在自恋者之前取消这段关系。他们就像吸血鬼，但这一次会让你神志不清。你必须明智地运用这个策略。
Narcissist coming back to their significant other in my experience is not for love. You are the prey and they are the predators.
在我的经验中，自恋者回到他们重要的另一半身边不是为了爱。你是猎物，他们是捕食者。
They enjoy the attention you give them, welcoming them back, letting them know you miss them and can’t wait for everything to be back to normal.
他们喜欢你给予他们的关注，欢迎他们回来，让他们知道你想念他们，迫不及待地想让一切恢复正常。
This strokes their ego.
这激起了他们的自尊心。
BAM- they achieved their aim, and they know you are hooked. They call the shots for the most part, and you are just playing along.
砰-他们实现了他们的目标，他们知道你上瘾了。他们在很大程度上发号施令，而你只是在配合。
So, What would make a narcissist come back after their Hibernation or Hiatus ?
那么，是什么让一个自恋者在冬眠或间歇之后又回来了呢？
To show their Dominance.
以显示他们的统治地位。
