My widowed daughter-in-law is going to remarry. How can I convince her to remember my son?
我丧偶的儿媳要再婚了。我怎么才能说服她记住我儿子呢？
Answered by: Fern Ward Buntyn,former Teacher for 26 Years (1981-2015)
回答者：弗恩·沃德·邦廷(Fern Ward Buntyn)，前教师26年(1981-2015)
I am a widowed daughter-in-law who chose to remarry. I was 35 and my husband was 36 when he was diagnosed with stomach cancer and had surgery that removed 80% of his stomach. Three days later they found an unrelated brain tumor and did brain surgery. There were complications from the initial surgery, and two more emergency surgeries followed, for a total of four surgeries. Prior to his death 10 weeks after the initial diagnosis, he had a colostomy bag due to peritonitis and was in very bad shape. He did not live long enough to actually fight the cancer. I was left with an 11-year old son and a 7-year old daughter to raise on my own.
我是一个选择再婚的丧偶儿媳。我35岁，我丈夫36岁，他被诊断出患有胃癌，接受了切除80%的胃的手术。三天后，他们发现了一个无关的脑瘤，并做了脑部手术。最初的手术出现了并发症，随后又进行了两次紧急手术，总共进行了四次手术。在最初诊断后10周去世之前，他因为腹膜炎有一个结肠造口袋，情况非常糟糕。他没有活到真正与癌症抗争的地步。剩下我一个11岁的儿子和一个7岁的女儿独自抚养。
After the children graduated high school, and my son was in the army and married, while my daughter was in college, I met a wonderful man through a popular online dating website. We have been married for 14 1/2 years now. My mother-in-law was prepared not to like him at first, but on meeting him, couldn’t help but like him.
孩子们高中毕业后，儿子当兵结婚了，女儿上大学的时候，我通过一个流行的在线交友网站认识了一个很棒的男人。我们已经结婚14年半了。我的婆婆一开始准备不喜欢他，但一见到他，就情不自禁地喜欢上了他。
She was prepared to like anyone who was good to us. She knew that I would never forget her son. We had been married for 15 years when he passed away. She had been divorced from his dad, so that may have accounted for her willingness to accept another relationship for me.
她准备喜欢任何对我们好的人。她知道我永远不会忘记她的儿子。他去世时，我们已经结婚15年了。她已经和他父亲离婚了，所以她愿意为我接受另一段恋情。
