父母有没有后悔生过孩子?你当然爱他们,但如果你可以回到过去,你会选择不生孩子吗? Mary Lees 的回答火了

2020-11-19 20:03

Do parents ever regret having children? You love them of course, but if you could go back in time, would you rather choose to remain childless? PNd世界播

父母有没有后悔生过孩子?你当然爱他们,但如果你可以回到过去,你会选择不生孩子吗?PNd世界播


Answered by: Mary Lees PNd世界播

回答者:玛丽·利斯(Mary Lees)PNd世界播


Lately, yes I do. This is really sad. I am blessed with four beautiful children. They are stunning, clever, well brought up, polite and will go far in life. I am so proud of them and I love them with all my heart. PNd世界播

最近,是的,我是这么认为的。这真的很可悲。我很幸运,有四个漂亮的孩子。他们令人惊叹,聪明,受过良好教育,彬彬有礼,会在生活中大有作为。我为他们感到骄傲,我全心全意地爱他们。PNd世界播


But life is so hard financially and emotionally it’s a huge burden. I have four girls aged 17,14,6 and 1 and two step children. Before I had children I used to travel a lot, I was well dressed and liked to spoil myself. I loved reading books and eating out. I can’t remember when I last read a book. My husband and I get our clothes from the supermarket and we rarely eat out. A holiday is a far away dream. We are heavily in debt as although we both work 50 plus hours a week there just isn’t enough money for our outgoings. Children always need something. There’s either a birthday or a school trip,school meals, haircuts, clothing. Even if you give them everything they ask for they complain it’s not as good as their friends or you didn’t get the right thing. That’s just how kids are. PNd世界播

但生活在经济上和情感上都是如此艰难,这是一个巨大的负担。我有四个女儿,年龄分别为17岁、14岁、6岁和1岁,还有两个继子。在我有孩子之前,我经常旅行,我穿得很好,喜欢宠自己。我喜欢读书和外出就餐。我不记得上一次看书是什么时候了。我和我丈夫从超市买衣服,我们很少外出就餐。度假是一个遥远的梦想。我们债台高筑,虽然我们每周都工作50多个小时,但没有足够的钱支付我们的支出。孩子们总是需要一些东西。要么是生日,要么是学校旅行,校餐,理发,穿衣服。即使你给了他们所要的一切,他们也会抱怨不如他们的朋友,或者你没有得到正确的东西。孩子们就是这样的。PNd世界播


Emotionally and physically I’m drained and I am miserable most days. My day starts at 5am every day as that’s when my daughter gets up and I have to start work not long after that. I work from home so there’s no respite. It’s an endless round of cooking, cleaning, tidying and providing reassurance and support for them. I can’t even go to the toilet or eat in peace. PNd世界播

在情感上和身体上,我都精疲力尽了,大多数时候我都很痛苦。我每天早上5点开始工作,因为那是我女儿起床的时候,之后不久我就得开始工作了。我在家工作,所以没有休息的时间。这是一轮没完没了的做饭、打扫、整理,并为他们提供安慰和支持。我甚至不能上厕所,也不能安安静静地吃东西。PNd世界播


I get a constant barrage of text messages telling me what they need. Books, food, where’s my jumper? Endless Bizarre questions I can’t answer but they expect me to know the answer to. The last one was can cats get herpes? How do they expect me to know these things? I have to keep booking doctors and Dentist appointments. I am expected to know all their schedules as well as my own and cook, clean and tidy for them. I feel like Cinderella although at least she only had 3 people to skivvy for. I have 4 kids and a husband. He tries his best when he is at home but he is exhausted as well. He often works 18 hour days and has a stressful job. PNd世界播

我不断收到一连串的短信,告诉我他们需要什么。书,食物,我的套头衫呢?无穷无尽的奇怪问题我无法回答,但他们希望我知道答案。最后一个问题是猫会得疱疹吗?他们怎么能指望我知道这些事呢?我不得不继续预约医生和牙医。我被要求知道他们所有的日程安排,以及我自己的日程安排,为他们做饭,干净整洁。我觉得自己就像灰姑娘,尽管至少她只有3个人可供选择。我有4个孩子和一个丈夫。他在家的时候尽了最大的努力,但他也很疲惫。他经常每天工作18个小时,工作压力很大。PNd世界播


my first child has always been an angel, no trouble at all and I often wonder what my life would be like if I had stopped when I had her. Would I be well rested? Be getting my hair and nails done like my friends? Would I be thinner? Happier? Would I have a better job where I get to go out to work and dress up and talk to adults all day instead of toddlers? Would my brain be able to think in peace without being talked to constantly by a very adorable but chatty 6 year old? PNd世界播

我的第一个孩子一直是个天使,一点都不麻烦,我经常在想,如果我有了她就停止了,我的生活会是什么样子。我会休息好吗?会像我的朋友一样做头发和指甲吗?我会瘦一点吗?更开心了吗?我会不会有一份更好的工作,在那里我可以出去工作,穿戴整齐,整天与成年人交谈,而不是和蹒跚学步的孩子交谈?如果没有一个非常可爱但健谈的6岁孩子和我交谈,我的大脑能平静地思考吗?PNd世界播


I know I am ungrateful and there’s the guilt. As if there wasn’t always enough guilt anyway. Guilt that I spilt with my first two Children’s dad when they were young. Guilt we aren’t rich. Guilt we live in a flat and have no garden. Guilt that I had to rehome the family dog because I was having a baby and wouldn’t be able to take it down two flights of stairs to go to the toilet when I had a baby. Guilt that I have so many things to do and so many thoughts in my head I’m never fully listening as I’m always doing or thinking something else at the same time. PNd世界播

我知道我忘恩负义,我有负罪感。好像总是没有足够的负罪感。当我的前两个孩子的父亲还小的时候,我向他们倾诉了我的负罪感。愧疚我们并不富有。愧疚我们住在公寓里,没有花园。我感到内疚,我不得不把家里的狗重新安置在家中,因为我要生孩子了,而且当我有孩子的时候,我不能把它带下两段楼梯去厕所。内疚,我有这么多事情要做,脑子里有这么多想法,我从来没有完全倾听,因为我总是同时在做或想着其他事情。PNd世界播


I try, I try so hard to be available for chats, I read to them each night,help with homework, boy trouble, career advice and hand out every penny that we both work so hard for to try and give them the best life possible. I pay for their mobile phones, their social lives, swimming lessons, football training and their hair dye and fake nails. PNd世界播

我努力,我非常努力地与他们聊天,我每晚都给他们朗读,帮助他们做作业,给男孩找麻烦,给他们职业建议,把我们努力争取的每一分钱都分发给他们,让他们尽可能地过上最好的生活。我为他们的手机、社交生活、游泳课、足球训练、染发和假指甲买单。PNd世界播


It is never enough. And the worst part is it’s my fault. Why did you keep having children everyone says? I can’t really explain. I love them and I wanted another baby each time like a yearning I just couldn’t stop. Finally though I am done and I wonder why I didn’t stop before. PNd世界播

这永远不够。最糟糕的是这是我的错。大家都说,你为什么一直要孩子呢?我真的无法解释。我爱他们,每一次我都想要一个孩子,就像一种向往,我就是停不下来。不过,我终于做完了,我想知道为什么我之前没有停下来。PNd世界播

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