What is the toughest question a child has asked you?
Answered by: Ashley Johnson
Last year my husband and I divorced. In an attempt to keep the divorce amicable, I gave him the house, car, and dog without any resistance on my part. I knew our 4 year old daughter would have a difficult time adjusting to her new lifestyle with divorced parents so I braced myself for the inevitable questions. Why don't you live with Papa anymore? Why do I have two homes? Do you not love Papa anymore? She asked all the questions that were expected and I answered the best I could. Despite my efforts to be prepared for any questions she might throw at me, there were two that caught me off guard and still slightly sting to this day.
In an attempt to keep living costs low, I moved into a one bedroom apartment giving my daughter the bedroom and putting a daybed in the living-room for myself. It's not ideal, but I was in a rush to move out and thought the neighborhood was a good fit for us.
Me: "Yea Kiddo?"
4-yo: "Why can't we live in a big house like Papa?"
Me: "Well, unfortunately, Mama can't afford a big house like Papa can. At least not right now, anyways. But one of these days we'll have one. Until then, I like living in a small space! It means I get to be closer to you."
4-yo: "Mom.... I have money in my piggy-bank! You can have it, so you can buy a house if you want."
Just a few short weeks after I moved out, my ex-husband moved in his new girlfriend to take on my role. She started cooking, cleaning, and taking care of our daughter as if she had done it for years. We'll call her Stacy for the sake of the story. There was a slight rift between her and I after my daughter came home saying "I love Stacy! Stacy is my new Mom!". Keep in mind, my ex-husband and I had only been split about a month by this time and my emotions were still on the rise. Luckily, as time has passed, I began to become grateful for Stacy's presence since it seems she's raising my daughter more than my ex.
4-yo: "Mom, can I ask you a question and you'll promise not to get mad?"
Me: "I promise."
4-yo: "Since Stacy is going to be having my baby brother and she'll be his Mom....." (stops to think) "Well, it's okay to have two Moms, right? Because I love you AND I love Stacy"
Me: "It's okay to have two Moms. I'm lucky enough to be the Mom who gave birth to such an amazing kid so I'm okay with it. I'm just glad she takes care of you and that you two get along. And I'm so excited that she's going to be giving you a baby brother!"
4-yo: "Thanks Mom! I love you!"