What is an aspect of married life that nobody seems to talk about?
Answered by: Amy Swift,Dating Advisor (Part-time) at Luxy Dating (2019-present)
I've gathered some interesting facts of marriage that you can read before you're getting married.
1. Your sex life doesn't have to sink after kids.
According to the iVillage survey, 52 percent of married women, and 49 percent of married men said they had hotter sex before kids, but a third and nearly a third of women said there has been no change since becoming parents, and get this -- 8 percent of women, and 22 percent of men say sex actually got better after kids!
2. The ‘in love’ phase lasts about a year.
The honeymoon phase doesn’t go on forever. According to a 2005 study by the University of Pavia in Italy, it lasts about ta year. After that, levels of a chemical called “nerve growth factor,” which is associated with intense romantic feelings, start to fall.
3. If you get excited for your partner's good news, you'll have a better relationship.
4. A few arguments every now and then are actually good for your marriage.
In 2012, Florida State University researchers found that bursts of arguments can actually be beneficial to relationships.
5. Divorce may be contagious.
I don’t want to ruin your double date plans but the people you surround yourself with matter quite a bit. A study published in the “Social Forces” Journal in 2013 found that divorce can work like a social contagion, spreading among friends and families. If someone in your social network ― say your coworker BFF or family friend ― splits up, the statistical likelihood of ending up in divorce court yourself increases by 75 percent.
6. Couples who appreciate each other are more likely to stay together.
7. Resentment builds quickly in couples who don't tackle chores together.
I’d recommend a system where each person specializes in the chores they’re best at.
8. We have higher standards for marriage than ever before.
Before 1850, couples got hitched for the sake of food, shelter, and protection. Then with the Industrial Revolution, people had more leisure time, The '60s brought a yearning for personal fulfillment through relationships, which we continue to strive for today. That’s why there are some niche apps launched into the dating market, including the one I work for. See in my bio.
9. The closer that partners are in age, the less likely they are to get divorced.
"A one-year discrepancy in a couple's ages, the study found, makes them 3 percent more likely to divorce (when compared to their same-aged counterparts); a 5-year difference, however, makes them 18 percent more likely to split up. And a 10-year difference makes them 39 percent more likely.”
10. The happiest marriages are between best friends.
Marriage leads to increased well-being - and it does so much more for those who have a close friendship with their spouses. Friendship is a key mechanism that could help explain the causal relationship between marriage and life satisfaction.
If you like my answer, upvote for it. See more life and dating tips in my Quora bio - Amy Swift.