What’s the saddest/most upsetting thing you’ve walked in on your child doing?
Answered by: Sarah Alb,Professional Dog Trainer Over 20 years of experience
Not my Child but my little sister.
After my mother yelled at her for like the 20th time that day and told her to go to her room, I followed her shortly after and found her sitting on her bed crying.
I sat beside her (I have to say I really hated my sister to that time and she loved me, today we have a good relationship) and said nothing.
She looked at me and said :
“I want to die, I can't take it anymore. Maybe that's for the best so nobody screams at me.”
It was that moment that I knew she was suffering like I did. I never thought about that and never thought that she could have the same thoughts I had at her age.
When I saw her sitting and crying in despair I started to realize that something is wrong with my family. I always thought that it was my fault and I needed to be punished. But seeing her, knowing she did nothing wrong and was screamed and insulted like this everyday made it clear to me… Maybe there is something happening that's not right…
I hugged her and said ”I know exactly how you feel and you're not alone. I can't always be there for you (I moved out with 17)but tell me if there is something that bothers you and I will try to protect you from mom.”
She was 5 at this time and I was 18.
She turns 16 next year and she became a strong and independent person. Not listening to my mother shouting and insulting. She can be proud of her, at least I am. We turned out to be totally different person while experiencing the same childhood.
I'm still in therapy and I'm sure she also didn't made it without psychological problems but she deals better with it.
I will never ever forget that moment.