有没有人在监狱里呆过十年以上?被释放是什么感觉? Laura Bitto 的回答火了

2020-10-14 12:34

Has anyone ever spent over a decade in prison? What was it like to be released? BXX世界播

有没有人在监狱里呆过十年以上?被释放是什么感觉?BXX世界播


Answered by: Laura Bitto BXX世界播

回答者:劳拉·比托(Laura Bitto)BXX世界播


Well, I didn't do the time, my husband did. He was in for 30 years. So I'll tell you what my observations were when he came back into society. BXX世界播

嗯,不是我坐的牢,是我丈夫坐的。他在监狱里待了30年。所以我会告诉你当他回到社会时我的观察结果是什么。BXX世界播


He went to prison at 19 and was released at 50. So, culturally, he missed quite a bit. He couldn't believe all the people walking around with phones. Using an ATM card took some getting used to. He brought out a ton of prison lingo, which is fascinating somehow. He referred to our bedroom as our "cell" and our neighbour's homes as "their cells". Prison food is a strange concoction of foods from the kitchen and the commissary, and he still eats "breaks". They're basically Ramen noodles with things added to them to make a meal. My husband adds crushed cheese puffs, pickles and tuna. He loves to take baths and will walk up and down every aisle in a store and marvels at the things for sale. What was strangest was, we'd lay in bed on a Saturday morning and he'd say he had to go to the store. Later that day he'd walk past me, out the door, without saying a word. He'd come back with bags and put the groceries away and again not say a word. I would ask why he was upset and that confused him. He wasn't mad, and he told me he had to go to the store that day. We had to establish relationship etiquette so he'd say hello and goodbye and eventually it became natural to him. BXX世界播

他19岁入狱,50岁获释。所以,在文化上,他错过了相当多。他不敢相信所有的人都带着手机走来走去。使用ATM卡需要一些时间才能习惯。他拿出了一大堆监狱行话,不知何故很吸引人。他说我们的卧室是我们的“牢房”,我们邻居的家是“他们的牢房”。监狱里的食物是厨房和小卖部食物的奇怪混合物,他仍然吃“休息”。它们基本上是拉面,加了一些东西来做一顿饭。我丈夫加了碎芝士泡芙、泡菜和金枪鱼。他喜欢洗澡,会在商店的每个过道上走来走去,对出售的东西惊叹不已。最奇怪的是,我们周六早上躺在床上,他说他必须去商店。那天晚些时候,他会从我身边走过,走出门,一句话也不说。他会拿着袋子回来,把杂货收起来,然后再一句话也不说。我会问他为什么心烦意乱,这让他很困惑。他没有生气,他告诉我那天他必须去商店。我们必须建立关系礼仪,这样他才会打招呼和告别,最终这对他来说是很自然的。BXX世界播


He still has dreams about prison, usually they're borderline nightmares. He is always scanning when we're in open areas - eyes darting around - always looking around for a threat. He gets concerned about his mom and I just doing something simple like going out to walk the dog. I believe he has (had) something like PTSD. He developed a very direct communication style which, once I got used to it, I learned to appreciate. Having a husband that spent time in prison is probably like having a pet pit bull. Some people believe all ex offenders are dangerous and some are. Some don't want anything to do with him. But some people are willing to look past labels and see the individual. BXX世界播

他仍然做着关于监狱的梦,通常都是近乎噩梦。当我们在开阔的地方时,他总是在扫视-眼睛四处飞跑-总是四处寻找威胁。他很担心他的妈妈,而我只是在做一些简单的事情,比如出去遛狗。我相信他得了创伤后应激障碍之类的病。他养成了一种非常直接的沟通方式,一旦我习惯了,我就学会了欣赏。有一个在监狱里呆过一段时间的丈夫可能就像有一只宠物斗牛犬。一些人认为所有有前科的人都是危险的,有些人是危险的。有些人不想和他有任何瓜葛。但有些人愿意看过去的标签,看到个人。BXX世界播


In short, it's an experience. BXX世界播

简而言之,这是一种体验。BXX世界播


EDIT: I want to add, since this comes up, I did not wait 30 years for him. I married, and divorced, 2 other people, got an education, and moved to other states while he was locked up. BXX世界播

编辑:我想补充一句,既然发生了这件事,我就没有为他等了30年。我和另外两个人结了婚,离婚了,接受了教育,在他被关起来的时候搬到了其他州。BXX世界播

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